Anyone old enough to remember the movie "The Graduate" and Mrs. Robinson knows the idea of older women dating younger men is as old as the story of Cleopatra. But now it’s getting crazy thanks to reality television, and TLC’s "Extreme Cougar Wives".
The term "cougar" is both complimentary and derogatory depending on its use, but in the end, the picture involved a woman dating a man half her age. For example, Kathy Newman, one of the stars on the show, is 55. Her boyfriend on the show, Brad, just 25. Another couple from Chicago: Desmond Huey, 26 and Sherri Winkelmann, 50. The amazing part of the show is its allure.
Tracy, the kids and I stumbled on the show one night, and we all watched in awe as couple after couple paraded themselves in front of millions. And while we all agreed "that’s too much of an age difference" we were quick to remind our children they are free to fall in love with whoever they choose, regardless of age, gender, religion, occupation, etc. So at times it was hard not to appear or feel like a hypocrite.
Why was I so intrigued by the show?
Soon we were asking ourselves the question: How much is too much of an age gap when it comes to love?
I totally get what the older person is after — the fountain of youth. But for the younger guy, what does he get out of this?
Dr. Freud had a few theories on that, namely that men are attracted to women similar to their mothers. OK, but what I don’t understand is some old enough to be grandmothers!
One 76-year-old woman hooked up with an 18-year-old old, who boasted how her ideal men are in their early 20s. Good for grandma. But what the heck are these guys doing? How much of an age gap is too much?
Even though younger women are often considered to be hotter and more desirable, a survey sponsored by OkCupid.com says that guys might be better off dating older women. Through a bunch of statistical comparisons, the math geniuses at OkCupid figured out that for younger guys, aged 20 to 34, the "zone of greatness" for women is between the ages of 28 and 44. To our Facebook friends:
Melissa Gervais: I believe that age is just a number but 76-18 is a bit much!
Angela Carlson: I think 10 years should be max!
Connie Chartier-Tanguay: Seriously... is the 18-year-old a gold digger? The 18-year-old probably can’t even spell gravity — in all directions.
Nikky Armstrong-Harvey: I think 10 is the limit when you get older you will be changing diapers again, and this time it will be your spouse not something I want.
Alicia Higgins: Age is only a number; I don't think that many people can judge.
Jennifer Boake: These days, whatever floats your boat! It doesn't affect me either way! Who cares if he's a gold digger if he's making her happy!
Sarah Rozell: But if that is what people at 18 chose then whatever, but I will never let my son when he turns 18 date a woman 76 years old.
Andrea Murray-Lucier: As long as they are both adults I don't see the big deal. It's only a number and if they are happy so be it for everyone to judge them.
Kim Rickard: Either way anything over 10 years is too much of an age gap. Kaili Marley-Love is love regardless of age, not everyone's looking for dollar. What is it your business?
Toni Kendall Gramiak: It's nobody’s business, except a 76-year-old’s kids who have an 18-year-old step mom. And an 18-year-old’s parents who have a 76-year-old son-in-law.
Sarah-Jane Speers: All in all I absolutely love that show.
Sheri Harmeson: It's sad that we even have to watch certain reality shows to feel good about ourselves.
Wendy Lynn Hiebert: Not sure what an 18-year-old would want with a 76-year-old but it’s their life!
Sheila Jason Marshall: The whole thought of growing old together is thrown out the window. Sometimes being with the "right" person is worth it though, even if it's not for long enough.
Shelley Lynne Hardinge: Funny how this subject NEVER is discussed when the older person is a man and the younger partner is a woman! Why is it that that is more socially acceptable?
Chris Woods: I watched this show a few time and makes me wonder WHAT is next for TV? It’s getting more and more ridiculous.
Chris, what’s next for TLC is a show called "The Man with the 132-pound Scrotum". Before you gasp and think I’m joking, Google it. It aired once this summer and will soon air again. Bottom line: The cougar show I will watch. The other one is not my bag.
JOKE THIS WEEK
After a year of dating, not caring about the big age gap, Henry of age 85, married Katie, a lovely 25-year-old.
Since her new husband is so old, Katie decides that after their wedding she and Henry should have separate bedrooms, because she is concerned that her new but aged husband may over exert himself if they spend the entire night together. After the wedding festivities Katie prepares herself for bed and the expected knock on the door. Sure enough the knock comes, the door opens and there is Henry, her 85-year-old groom, ready for action. All goes well, Henry takes leave of his bride, and she prepares to go to sleep.
After a few minutes, Katie hears another knock on her bedroom door, and it’s Henry, again he is ready for more ‘action’. Somewhat surprised, Katie consents for more coupling. When the newlyweds are done, Henry kisses his bride, bids her a fond good night and leaves. She is set to go to sleep again, but, aha! you guessed it — Henry is back again, rapping on the door, as fresh as a 25-year-old, ready for more action. And, once more they enjoy each other.
But as Henry gets set to leave again, his young bride says to him, ‘I am thoroughly impressed that at your age you can perform so well and so often. I have been with guys less than a third of your age who were only good once.You are truly a great lover, Henry.’
Henry, somewhat embarrassed, turns to Katie and says: ‘You mean I was here already?’
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» Tyler Glen is a radio DJ on Star-FM. He writes a weekly column for the Brandon Sun.
Republished from the Brandon Sun print edition September 21, 2013